Frame

“It’s all about the frame of your mind.”

On introspect, if I have taken what was said to me more seriously back then perhaps I would have been more contented with my life, however, it’s alright, it’s never too late.

In the past, I used to be overly critical of myself; oftentimes minimising my achievements and magnifying my mistakes. Eventually, it had reached the point whereby it was so debilitating to do the simplest of tasks, as I am afraid, afraid that I would not perform well.

Then, avoidance came, I would simply try to escape from demanding challenges whenever possible, and for the unavoidable situations that I have to face, I would go through the motions and berate myself if anything is less than perfect.

Eventually, it had reached the point whereby it was so debilitating to do the simplest of tasks, as I am afraid, afraid that I would not perform well.

Then, avoidance came, I would simply try to escape from demanding challenges whenever possible, and for the unavoidable situations that I have to face, I would go through the motions and berate myself if anything is less than perfect.

Instead of judging myself so critically, I could have reframed my mindset, such that it would entail positive connotations rather than solely focusing on the negative aspects should I fail to perform to my standards.

Instead of avoidance, I could have faced the challenges with the notion that even if I were to fail, it’s fine, as it is an opportunity to learn from my mistakes and with each challenge which I encounter, it would empower me, to be a more competent person in life.

Instead of the overt criticism of myself, I could have perceived things from another angle — would I be so critical to someone else in the same situation that he encountered as me? This is rather arbitrary, however, in my opinion, we are our worst critic.

Your mindset, is everything on how you tackle the challenges that you face.

Afraid of speaking publicly? At least you are braver than the others in the room. Also, people are more concerned about themselves than you.

Your significant other dumped you? Screw that. You are better than that.

 

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