The only person you should be competing is with yourself
For every milestone we achieve, there are countless of people out there who shares the same achievement. For every achievement we have attained, there are countless of people out there who have accomplished more than what we have achieved. And by pitting ourselves against others, there is no endgame in sight because there will definitely be people who are one step ahead of us in any aspect of our lives. In other words, it is essentially a zero-sum game, and the only person we ought to compete is with ourselves and not against other people.
It is imperative that we understand that the journey to self-improvement is to improve upon ourselves and not for the sake of others. Hence, why should we benchmark how well we fare in life against other people’s successes or weaknesses when the end goal in mind is for us to accomplish what we want to do for ourselves in the first place? Why should we feel inferior when someone’s else successes make our accomplishments feel ever so minuscule? Why should we feel ever so superior when we are more objectively more accomplished than someone in a certain aspect of our lives?
And most importantly, are we doing all these for ourselves, or are we doing it for other people?
At times, we tend to get overly fixated on validation from others do we fail to realise that, perhaps, by comparing ourselves to other people, it could actually be detrimental to our goals since we all have radically strengths and weaknesses, and it is fallacious if we were to compare our weaknesses to another person strengths because that is unreasonable and not a fair comparison. Conversely, if we were to compare our strengths to another person’s weaknesses, we will never be able to achieve more than what we have accomplished because we will simply get complacent with what we have achieved over others and see no need for further improvement if our impetus for self-improvement is for us to be better than someone else, than ourselves. Big fish in small pond eh?
That is to say that comparison with other people is not inherently malicious but having healthy comparison is what we need and what we ought to do.